Questions
How do y‘all know if you‘re a top or a bottom?
I have like zero idea what I like. I can‘t imagine myself fuckin a guy or getting fucked (pls don‘t judge I‘m an innocent 19 year old guy )
I matched with this guy on bumble and he gave me bottom vibes from the very start. He‘s super interested in me. For the past days we texted a lot and we have good chemistry. Then I talked about this very topic and he straight up said that he‘s more into bottoming but also only done it once. So he‘s assuming I‘m the top? Kinda scared what to do I never got this far. Send help!
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it was a historical straight manhwa.
Strong FL that chased the ML and started the initial courting, i believe she had a sword and was silver haired with blue eyes, and was apart of a strong noble family (silver dragon?)
She often wore pants in the manhwa, and the male lead had brown hair (?) and he often felt that he wasnt good enough for her, and tried breaking up
Is it jst me?!! or nowadays i feel like there are no good manhwa with good plot even if there is they are all ongoing or same plot line (supernatural's
And i dont get guideverse thing (my opinion )
And i am searching everyday for good one so if you know pls tell me
There's no explicit sex scenes even though it's a manhwa so i don't know if you're okay with that but here's my rec
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/paljae/
Paljae, Child of Winter. It's a manhwa and it's historical and has korean mythological stuff, heavens, humans, ascendants, demons.
Summary:
It's more than just coincidence.
Young Paljae drifts to the isle at world's end to be taken in by Munryeong, a hermit with a mysterious past. But when Paljae begins to waste away in the sun-bathed climate, Munryeong takes his little companion on a journey to the cold north that uncovers their forgotten past encounter.
(It's my fav manhwa, it's honestly so well written and has amazing art, the characters and the story is complex and it's plot based)
Okay, so, this is a yaoi manga/manhwa in which both protagonists are loving people, to the point of smothering their partners and always get dumped, they meet at a college dinner and talk about how they just want to always be near their partner, know everything about them, and constantly be in contact, and be loved with just as much force. They end up drunk and they have sex, after which they decide to date, and are all over each other and in absolute bliss. I cannot remember the name, please give me names that could be this story.
I feel like I’ve read all the main ones
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/asterism_yaoi/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/cute_winter_days/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/boys_love_jagal/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/even_if_summer_ends/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/green_apple_paradise/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/beware_of_drunken_relationships/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/as_you_like_it/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/ashita_ai_kamo_shirenai/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/shout_loud_my_heart/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/can_t_sing_a_love_song/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/chiguhagu_na_kiss/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/sekai_de_ichiban_toui_koi/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/from_the_moon_to_the_stars/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/good_morning_sunshine/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/ashita_mo_kimi_ni_ai_ni_iku/
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/chameleon_wa_tenohira_ni_koi_wo_suru/
Mini rant, if you disagree thats cool. Tell me WHY you disagree cuz I like these discussions.
I hate how a large majority of BL is just a sex driven plot instead of there being a plot but then they just have sex sometimes. Like ooooooo he's cursed... so you have to FUCK HIM to get rid of it! ooooooo he's poor and has debt... so you have to FUCK HIM to pay his debts for him. Thats why I kinda pray that stories like A Lovely Meal just stays a cute vampire story and doesnt become 18+ just because the author feels pressured from fans. It has such a cute wonderful plot and I personally feel like that will change the vibe of it for me (this is all personalllllll dont get ur panties in a knot if you disagree, youre allowed to like smut I think it's just become too excessive to a degree). I feel like a lot of people wont read a story unless theres some form of sex in there and find it to be some sort of flaw if a story is just purely based on an actual plot instead of the point of the plot is to lead to sex.
Dont get me wrong! I think theres a place for these specific stories that are purely sex based. Sometimes ya just gotta read a pornhwa lmao. But I hate reading a story with no smut and the comments are just flooded with "WHEN ARE THEY GONNA FUCK??? COME ON!!!" And then you get an authors note that says "I included smut scenes cuz my publishers thought it would bring in more of an audience." Like I cant imagine how sad it has to be for an author/artist to put their heart and soul into a story only for it to be met with "Oh thats cool but like you need people to fuck in this or less people are gonna read it."
All in all, my opinion means nothing and I'm just talking into a void but Idk it was a random thing I was thinking about lmao.
The same reason why hantai, and the porn industry in general is so big, because society like it, it feeds in the fantasy and pleasure of people, and sex genuinely do something to the brain and it is also something that can be turned into an addiction, but if you want more details on that I'm sure you can found some video or documentaries on the subject on youtube
I totally agree with you to me the tension between leads is better than any actual intimacy so I get where ur coming from boo. Sometimes I think comments exaggerate but I know some of them are there for one thing and one thing only but tbh sometimes I get uninterested if they do end up doing it like halfway through and I can never finish the story idk why but it’s a curse call me weird but I can’t help it
I love when smut scenes are making love not just fucking. Like there was one story recently I was really enjoying until the first time and it just felt so focused on them cracking every other scene past that.(manhattan romance if anyone is wondering) and I’ve had it happen with SOOO many stories. Like my top stories either dont have smut, or it’s not enough to drive the plot. My top three are payback, which while it does have smut it doesn’t happen til there is a lot of development between the characters and there’s tons of tension instead. Reunion which has three that are genuinely the most beautiful intimate scenes I’ve ever read. And then netkama punch which doesnt have any. I wish more stories didnt feel the pressure to add them because it ends up feeling forced in
I mean I understand that part of it, but at some point I feel like it should be recognized how damaging it is. If you can't survive through a story without the flood of chemicals that your brain gets when you see sexual stuff then ya need a little detox lmao.
BUT that requires some type of self awareness to recognize when you need to take a step back. Unfortunately a lot of people don't see the issue with it so they don't take the time to heal that part of their brain.
Also, a lot of us started reading BL very young and unfortunately got introduced to sexual situations when we shouldn't have had access to it. I feel like this is a huge contribution to the problem tbh. One of the first BL mangas I read was Koisuru Boukun on KissManga and LORDDDDD I should not have been reading that as a kid lmfao. Idek what kinda infuelnce that had on my brain and its perception of certain things.
Yeahhhhh I have dropped a good amount of stories cuz the plot has just been pushed to the side and they just fuck every chance they get. Like omg I get it but I wanna know wtf is happening in the plot. I start to feel icky sometimes cuz I'll be binging a lot of stories and then I just realize I've been laying in bed for hours just looking at people sex lmaoooo and I'll just have to cleanse my brain with some fluff
YES! This! Sometimes it feels like a story is only created cuz someone has a good art style so they feel like they have to create SOMETHING. That's why I really like when artists adapt novels instead of trying to create a story when they kind of don't have the skillset for it (some artists are blessed with both the skills of art and writing though lol). Some people have the genuine artistry at creating a story and building up an actual universe and some people dont but thats okayyyy lol.
I feel like you’d love Shutline if you haven’t read it. They walk that perfect line (in my opinion, maybe most of the audience) of great art, consistently thought out plot and chemistry driven sex scenes. Not just mindless porn.
Literally some of my faves for intimacy, Shutline, The Broken Ring and My Sunny Days give me the feeling of being provided fresh air after being Dutch Oven-ed for days.

Feeds
I hope mc becomes better at flirting soon because I'm suffering here
a whore bottom (said lovingly) with a stereotypical bottom backstory and a traumatized top with an unhealthy obsession to the bottom.
Also I hope gaon stays relevant to the story I’m gonna miss her
did she misunderstood the shooting and brought an actual gun?
Then dude Here was like "oh ur not right in the head? I'll show you what's not right in MY head"
ML loves MC but he doesnt realise it yet
MC likes ML as a friend but he is into the good sex, it feels good to him physically.
Whats wrong? Not every love story should be the perfect match where both are deeply in love. I know married couples where its crystal clear one of them is in love while the other isnt really yet they both happy and functional.
and also where on earth is the chasing arc hello… i need to see the uke chase after the seme? or at least be jealous? it’s so one sided yikes
1. i get that she’s the mc and she’s starting to change the dynamics of the family but like as a reader this is feels like she’s a character with a lot of plot armour. like i don’t think it would’ve been bad to make her lose any of the “duels” bc i honestly think it could’ve added to the story
2. the cover of the story made it seem like her dad would be more relevant but most of the story especially at the start really revolves around her relationship with her grandfather. which don’t get me wrong that makes sense but like at the start the only time we really see her dad is when he brought her in. more over the start felt so rushed like tell me more about the dead son. show me more of their relationship building.
i think the story itself is like okay… like don’t get me wrong i’ve read a lot of story’s where the mc is like invincible or whatever and furthermore she’s just a kid but it js feels like there’s plot holes and the more i read the more like stupid it feels.